Tuesday, July 27, 2010

ETIQUETTE, MANNERS AND SOCIAL GRACES

ETIQUETTE, MANNERS AND SOCIAL GRACES
A Mulla Nasrudin Story
By
VIKRAM KARVE


Once there was a happily married couple.

The highly educated husband was doing well in life and the simple homemaker wife looked up to her husband with respect and adoration.

The well meaning husband encouraged his wife to learn, he motivated his simple wife to do courses in computers and software, and then he helped her find a good job in the IT industry.

The wife did extremely well in the IT industry and in a few years the tables were turned – whereas the wife’s career prospered the husband’s career stagnated. She travelled abroad on prestigious projects, earned lots of money, got fast promotions and her career truly flourished whereas the poor luckless husband continued to slog away in his job without much reward or recognition.

Now the “successful” wife started looking down upon her husband, as if he were an embarrassment, and sometimes even belittled him. She had progressed but he had remained where he was and the wife now felt that she was too good for him and she was out of his league forgetting that it was her husband who had initially encouraged her to learn and take up a career and he too had a hand in her success.

I couldn’t bear this any longer, so I told her this Mulla Nasrudin story:


Mulla Nasrudin went to see a divorce lawyer and told him that he wanted to divorce his wife. 

“What grounds do you think you have for a divorce…?” the lawyer asked.

“It’s my wife’s manners,” said Nasrudin, “She is unbearable. My wife possesses no social graces and has absolutely no etiquette.  It’s disgusting – her behaviour – she has absolutely no etiquette and her table manners are so bad that she is disgracing the whole family.”

“That’s really bad,” the lawyer said.  “How long have you been married…?”

“Nine years,” said Nasrudin.

“Nine years…?” the lawyer exclaimed surprised, “If you have been able to put up with her table manners for nine years, I can’t understand why you want a divorce now…?”

“Well,” said Nasrudin, “I didn’t know it before.  I just bought a book on Etiquette this morning.”

VIKRAM KARVE   
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